I was lying back while drinking beer and watching television. On the side of me is a female friend who is doing the exact same thing. A conversation ensues between the two of us about what a man must do in order to get a date with a woman. The context was of a mutual friend of ours who has trouble in this department. I told her the story of how he was recently rejected by a female coworker of his. She went on with her advice as to why he was failing with women. But somewhere along the line she said something that disturbed me and gave me a keen understanding as to why so many women get raped. What she said was not at all original or revolutionary in its essence, but when the words
“Sometimes a girl likes to be chased. She wants to feel wanted”
I instantly knew the root cause of the so called “rape culture” in the U.S.
Women are notorious for always warning men that “no means no”. For us men who have dealt with enough women, we know this to be pure malarkey. If “no” always meant “no”, many men would die virgins. There would also be fewer rapes as a result, because for once women would mean what they said instead of talking in indirect code language.
Women, many times, bring rape upon themselves. They purposely reject men, even ones they are interested in, in order to get him to chase her. Since women love to be the prize and the center of attention, leading a man on a wild goose chase through all sorts of hoops and mind games is all too common in today’s society. What this does is blur the line between what is acceptable for a man to do to a woman and what is not…because once we can all agree that women want to be chased, we can understand what a predicament it puts men into. Since “no” does not always mean “no”, there is no real way for a man to know when to stop his advances upon a woman.
My theory as to why women give such pieces of advice goes back to dark triad genes or the lack thereof. You see, when a woman tells a man that he should just be himself, or to respect women, or to give them compliments, or that “no means no”, what she is actually doing is bullshitting the male. This is a weeding out mechanism that women use in order to ensure that men who don’t get it never will. You see, women do not want nice guys to propagate their genes. They do not wish for them to be successful with women. This is why advice coming from women is never good; it has been sabotaged from the get-go.
Women have the power and control in the dating scene. This is important to note because it means that any and every problem with society in the context of female-male relations falls on the shoulders of women themselves. If women decide to start dating men who are genuine, nice, and honest, then that is what most men will become. Since women, however, are only attracted to males with dark triad genes, that is what most men strive to be. The ones that do not either are alone or being used. Moreover, since women have decided to make men chase and act in an overly-aggressive fashion in order to get sex, the rape culture pervades society. Make no mistake about it, women invariably cause most rapes.
Now, this is not to say that specific individuals who are victims of raped caused it or even desired it. The point is that women overall have created an environment in which only sexually aggressive, narcissistic, abrasive men are seen as sexually attractive (these traits are what women interpret as being “confident”). They have created an environment in which “no” doesn’t mean “no”, it actually means “try harder, keep going, I want to be chased, I want to feel wanted even though you’ve already made it clear that you want me. I want to play games and toy with you until I’m satisfied.” Men are constantly placed in awkward, unsure situations because what women want is always esoteric. Should he approach? If she rejects him, should he continue his advances because that’s what she may want deep down? Who knows? For many men, leaving things to chance is not an option. They will continue to press the issue in order to find out the woman’s true intentions.
Thus is the nature of women: enablers of the very thing they claim to despise the most
