*Note*: Of course feminism is not responsible for EVERYTHING wrong with marriage and society today. I am writing under the assumption that people who read this are fair minded individuals that respect opinions even if they disagree with them. This is how I see it. If you have a different opinion, thats fine with me, I have no problem with it.
If you talk to any sociologist, they will all agree that feminism is responsible for breaking up the traditional, stable family. Whether or not this was for the benefit of women is up for debate. I would argue that destroying families is worse than the grievances of women at the time.
Back then, there were virtually no divorces. Today, divorces are the norm. Statistically, women are the ones who initiate the divorce most of the time.
Back then, there was less of a chance that a woman would cheat. Women were faithful and gave themselves to their husbands. They actually could cook, unlike now days. I've never met a girl who could cook. So back then it made sense because women would actually stay with them.
Many feminists claim that they do allow men to pay for them on dates. Well, while most women who identify as feminist benefit from the equality and specific laws protecting women, they have not given up the custom that men should pay for them. So they keep the benefits of feminism, but don’t give up what is necessary for them to become truly equal.
There is less of a reason for a man to do all these things for women. Think about the dating process:
1. The man must approach the woman who he has never met. This takes courage and confidence. He must be completely over himself and willing to lower his value and self-esteem. Right off the bat, he is in the L column.
2. He must say the right things, and be interesting enough for her to give him the number. She could just use him for free drinks, who knows. If he is good enough to her pleasing, he may get the number.
(So far, she has contributed absolutely nothing. Standing there looking pretty does not count. And he must do the most in terms of contributing to the conversation, such as figuring out topics to talk about and what-not. She certainly is not going to do anything that would make her seem too interested. She will only help the conversation along, so she can further judge the man.)
3. He must call at the perfect time. If he calls to early, she'll think he's a stalker and tell all her friends that he is a "creepy" stalker weirdo.
(So far, she still has contributed nothing)
4. The date. He drives her around in his car, on his dime. He pays for movie tickets. He pays for dinner. All the while, he must be on his A game and say the right things. He can't be too boring and can't be too aggressive.
(She has contributed nothing. A stuck up, selfish woman might say something like "Well just my presence alone is enough." This is how some women think, I have heard them say it myself)
5. Sex, or a kiss. After all he did, he is still expected to initiate the kiss or sex. Of course, he must do this at the right time for HER and to HER liking. Its all about HER pleasure. If its sex, he is expected to have protection with him.
(This is where she finally contributes something. She sleeps with him. But does this mean she has actually matched what he sacrificed? No. In fact, this doesn't even count, because sex benefits both men and women. So she still hasn't done any independent thing on her part to contribute to this relationship. He has done over and above anything she did. At this point, the best she possibly did was help the conversation along or maybe help keep the talk interesting, throughout the date. That is still little in comparison to what he has done.)
What has the woman done through all of this? Look nice? That’s it. She may contribute to the conversation, but he is expected to lead the talk and do everything else.
So the whole dating system is rigged top to bottom and the advantage is almost all women, from the very start.
This is why feminists should shut up. This is why they are radicals. If you are a feminist in America today, you are selfish and ungrateful.
I try all the time to rationalize this. I try to figure out where men get their share of the pie. I try to see where women actually contribute something meaningful to the relationship. But the more I analyze it, the more I come to the same conclusion: the entire mating scene is rigged. Perhaps, as I've said above, back then it was worth it. Women didn't cheat or leave their husbands. Women cooked and cleaned and actually raised the children. But today, I have yet to meet a woman my age that could cook. Feminists have demonized housework. So basically, women have kept all the benefits of the sacrifices men had to make in order to be with them, and thrown away all of the contributions that they once had to do.
This is why feminism is bad for our society. I do not hate women or wish them harm. But I'll be damned if I have to bow down to this matriarchal society that beats down the male and wants to feminize everything.
