Parenting is one of the most important jobs that one can have. That's where it all begins. Sure, genetics play a role in what a child grows up to become; however, for the most part, it's up to parents to raise their children the right way and instill in them proper beliefs and customs that benefit society as well as themselves.
Generally speaking, what is the average young boy taught growing up in regards to women? To respect women. To hold open doors for women. To be polite around women. To take care of women. To watch his language around women. To pull out chairs for women. When there is something heavy to be lifted, the boy learns quickly that he should volunteer to carry it for the girl. Not long after this, the average young boy discovers chivalry at its most horrific stage: dating. Whether its a romantic comedy or a television show, the young boy will find out that it is a social standard that on a date, he must (standard date)
a) Chauffeur the girl around in his car, on his dime.
b) Pay for the movie tickets and any snacks that she desires
c) Pay for dinner
d) A kiss is expected at the end. This requires courage, as he is risking rejection as well a a blow to his self-esteem.
We know what young boys are taught growing up. Basically, its to appease and serve women. It continues through adulthood; men don't care for large homes and fancy cars. Not in the abstract they don't. They work slavishly to get these material possessions because society has taught them that its the best way to get an attractive female; if a male could live in a comfortable apartment with a decent car his whole life and not have it work against him when it comes to getting a mate, he would do it. So serving women never stops.
With that being said, I have an important question to ask: are young girls instructed by their parents and society to respect and revere men as much as boys are told to respect them? Of course not, and everyone knows it. Young girls are pampered and told they are princesses. This is a fundamental difference in the way men and women are raised. If feminism is truly about equality, then why exactly have feminists turned a blind eye to the issue of chivalry and the way boys are taught to worship girls?
Chivalry in and of itself is sexist. Yet I see nothing but hypocrisy from feminists and most women for that matter. The feminist movement has turned out to be yet another special interest group that claims to be for equality but in reality desires more and more advantages, entitlements, and attention.
If you are a true egalitarian, you would not identify with any ideology at all. That is the fact that feminists hide. Inequality is a double edged sword. Not being equal has disadvantages as well as advantages. For instance, a disadvantage for women in the early 1900's was that they were restricted to the kitchen and raising children. However, an advantage was not having to work or take on any stressful responsibility. Another advantage was having the luxury of choosing a mate. Women were (and still are) in the position to judge males and choose who they saw fit. Chivalry was also an advantage.
Now, after feminism has pervaded society, we see that these disadvantages are gone. However, the advantages that inequality brought women remain; they conveniently held on to the luxurious social custom of having a man put his self-esteem on the line to approach a woman who he doesn't know, and go through all of the steps that I outlined above on a date. Chivalry was left out of the "equality" movement.
This seems to me to be pure hypocrisy and nothing more than a power grab for the gender that is a 53% majority in the USA. Feminism has turned the average woman today into a party-seeker. A feminist will fight for the right of women to get drunk and pass out in front of groups of red-blooded males. This is subtle encouragement. Today's American woman is as irrational as yesterday's American women; the difference is that today's has been given the green light to act on her illogical, irrational, and emotional choices.
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Poor you, you are full of anger. You text is filled with several fallacies. You assume things as if they were absolute. My girlfriend and I try very hard to counter these stereotypes. I do not agree that women and men are entitled to specific tasks or responsibilities. And whatever society tries to teach you, you have to leave out a part and reason for yourself. But only when you manage to get rid of the anger that blinds you, only then will you be able to live peacefully with women. Believe it or not, they're are respectful women out there. However, if I was one of them, I certainly wouldn't be interested in conversing with you, after having read such hate speech.
Look, no generalization is true. No one person can account for every single girl in the US. However, I can speak about the majority. I can use the current accepted social customs as a basis for my argument.
You and your girlfriend don't fit the stereotype? Great, if its even true. But you are one couple out of millions. Just because you go against the grain doesn't mean everyone else is.I strongly believe that a marriage/relationship will not work without defined gender roles.
Also, I am not angry. This is simply how I see it. Ad-hominem attacks like the ones you spewed are signs that you have lost the argument all-together.
The idiot says:
"A feminist will fight for the right of women to get drunk and pass out in front of groups of red-blooded males. This is subtle encouragement."
I don't think you need much encouragement, Brandon.
I think you are so deeply frustrated by the fact that no women will sleep with you (because you are a pig) that you are more than ready to rape the first drunk girl you find.
I think you have a truly frightening level of anger towards women.
Good luck in prison, Brandon. (Rape works a little bit differently, there. Foolish young guys, such as yourself, are QUITE popular with those red-blooded males. I've heard it helps if you bite down on something.)
Look, Tigerboy. You clearly have no understanding of basic english. I have no desire to elaborate on how wrong your statement was. Just have a nice life
Hi there! I feel like this post is really more towards the upper part of society and for people who are kind of shallow.
Wealthy girls may grow up being pampered and treated as a princess, but normal girls aren't.
Growing up as a girl, I feel like I have more understanding of what it's like for a girl growing up.
Now, society tells a young girl that, when they're adults, there are certain things that are expected out of them. We are supposed to take care of the cooking, the cleaning, and our families.
That is not an easy task, and it certainly doesn't make a woman feel pampered. These types of things can be very tedious and difficult.
Nowadays, women are expected to still do those things, and hold down a job. What has so many feminists angry is taht expectation that we have to still provide for our families by doing all the "women stuff" and having a job where we're generally paid less than a male.
Also, in regards to chivalry; many feminists actually are against that. If you'd like more information on that, feel free to check out some of it here: http://feminismonline.com/2003/02/16/dont-open-my-door-exploring-notions-of-chivalry/
and here: http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/710113/the_sexism_of_chivalry_feminists_tired.html?cat=9
Those are just a few of the sites that popped up when I Googled Feminism and Chivalry.
As far as the "men work slavishly to get cool things that will get them attractive women" then that's just unfortunate for them. There are plenty of beautiful women in the world who don't require the presence of nice, material things in order for them to love a man.
If you're looking for someone shallow, then that's what you'll get. However, that certainly doesn't mean that all of us girls and feminists are like that (and the majority of us aren't).
Keep in mind that women have come a long way. Many doctors in the past honestly believed that women were too weak or too stupid to do a lot of the things that we're allowed to do now. We weren't allowed to vote, own land, collect inheritance, choose someone to marry without our father's consent, go to school, or even have jobs.
While many of us are allowed to do a lot of those things today, we still have equality issues in society and in the workplace. Women are still viewed as objects instead of people, and we still are discriminated against. It's not nearly as bad as the past, but there's still some things that we need to overcome.
I hope that some of this information helps! :)
Treat feminists no better than you would treat a man. If you wouldn't do it for a man, don't do it for a feminist, be it open a door, pay for a meal, change a tire, whatever. That is equality.
However, ladies usually enjoy chivalry and should get it.
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